by Kathy Shalhoub
Are you someone who always seems to have bad luck, failed projects and a pessimistic view on life?
Why do these things happen to you and not to others?
It’s because you’ve learned how to be helpless.
Martin Seligman, a PhD in psychology determined that the primary cause of learned helplessness is pessimism!
Do you know what the defining characteristics of the pessimist are?
Take two people who sustain the exact same hardships of life. The optimist will tend to believe that:
- defeat is only a temporary setback,
- this setback is a one-time occurrence confined to this one case,
- circumstances, bad luck, or other people have brought it about.
The pessimist on the other hand, believes that:
- bad events will last a long time,
- bad luck undermine everything they do, and
- all unfortunate or unwelcome occurrences are their own fault.
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The thing with optimists is that they are unfazed by defeat, they simply see it as a challenge and try harder next time. Pessimists on the other hand, give up more easily and are more often depressed.
So what’s wrong with being a pessimist?
You may be one of those people who actually need failure or bad luck to feel good about yourself. Why? Because then all that is happening is not your fault. You can blame circumstances for your situation and you don’t need to take responsibility for your own future.
So you are comfortable being helpless and nothing is your fault. Which means that you are likely to fail at anything you try to do because you believe that you control nothing!
Where does that leave you? Exactly where you are if you’re lucky, but you’re never lucky, remember?
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The way you think about your life and your belief in your power to control an outcome can completely shape your future. Find out how to change your outlook in next week’s blog post: How to Unlearn ‘Learned Helplessness’.
Are you an optimist or a pessimist? Take this quiz and let us know!
P.S. I’m an optimist 80% of the time 🙂