By: Kathy Shalhoub
When you aim for success, what is it that you imagine in your mind? Money in the bank, fame, recognition, winning first prize, a parade of suitors?
What exactly does success mean and does achieving it lead to a sense of satisfaction? So many people out there have no idea exactly what that ‘success’ is that they’re trying so hard to find!
When it comes to success, so many of us pick a description or a goal – based on what we see and hear and think is good – and we race towards that destination thinking that if only we could get there our lives will be transformed and when we get there, we suddenly feel empty, unsure where to go next, what to do, or why exactly we went down this road in the first place.
When it comes to success, there are the two extremes, on the one hand there are those who aim single-mindedly for an objective, and on the other hand, you have the people who are completely afraid of success.
And in the middle, you have all those people who have no idea what they’re looking for, or have found a form of success that is addictive, a success that everybody envies them for but them. Think Marilyn Monroe, Amy Winehouse, Michael Jackson,… the list is endless. What were they looking for? Any why was the success they had just not good enough?
The problem with many of the measures of success that we use for ourselves is that they are fragile, they can break.
Made a bad investment and lost your money? Popularity is going down? A criticism to your looks, sports accomplishments, achievements? Those are all potentially broken successes.
Achieving personal fulfillment and satisfaction is perhaps the ultimate success because nothing can shake it. Is it any wonder then that self-actualization is the highest level in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs? Is it a surprise that in Anthony Robbins’ human needs psychology, the two basic needs of the human spirit are growth and contribution?
Realizing your potential (who you were meant to be), developing your self and making a contribution to the world in a way that is meaningful to you is what will ultimately bring you fulfillment, and it is that sense of fulfillment that ultimately brings you the unshakable feeling of success that will carry you confidently and optimistically through life.
Blogger’s Bio: Kathy studied engineering at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology and has a PhD in Marine Sciences from the University of Paris. She is also a writer and published her first book, Life as a Leb-neh Lover, in 2010. Kathy is fascinated by matters of the mind, self discovery, self acceptance and personal development and is currently researching these topics. Check out her blog, ‘like’ her on Facebook or follow her on twitter @Lebneh_Lover.